Friday, October 23, 2015 |
I’m involved in the Autism community because my son is
My son was diagnosed with autism close to three years ago.
Before that point in my life I was unaware and had no idea what Autism even
was. It has been and continues to be a tough journey, as well as a rewarding
I wouldn’t change my son for the world. I noticed strange
behaviors in my son throughout his first years. I, as well as his mom thought
that’s just how he is. Then, his behavior started to get really out of hand
from tantrums, to throwing objects, hitting people, biting people, as well as
self- inflicted injuries.
Our daughter was born four days shy of a year from my son.
We watched as she began to progress and advance faster than him. We became
concerned when she began to talk and he still hadn’t made out a word. We then
After a visit to the doctor, my son Dominique was diagnosed
with Autism. That day my life changed. I
didn’t know what was going on. I felt hopeless? Selfish? Why didn’t I try and
find out sooner? I had a million questions and no answers.
I was pursuing a music career at the time. I was doing shows
and was written about in newspaper articles. I was shooting music videos, etc. but
I suddenly became discouraged and stopped pursuing my dreams. I started putting
all my effort into finding out how to help my son. I enrolled in many autism
classes and began to learn as much as possible. What I began to learn I
immediately practiced and started applying.
I also came across an article that talked highly about P-A-L
Plus enzymes. I ordered them without any
hesitation. Within a week he began to say five words. I would highly recommend
to all parents with a child with autism to look into these pills and if they
feel that it could help, to go ahead and give them a try. The pills are all
natural and I have seen wonderful results. The pills are basically for the
digestive system. They are all powder and in a clear capsule. I just break the
capsule open and stir it into the juice I give him in the morning after
breakfast or whatever meal he decides to eat. The P-A-L plus enzymes help break
up the food that enters the body. In which many studies show that a person with
Autism digestive system is very different than others, and has a huge problem
with breaking down food and allowing the right nutrients to go where they are
This can become a huge problem for the brain and body to
function properly. I told myself I wouldn’t do music again until he is better.
It started out rough because I had to work on his behavioral issues
extensively. Anyone that deals with a
person in this condition knows it’s tiring and sometimes easier to just give in
and let them get their way. Just so the
crying and shouting stops for that split second. You have to remain strong for
them, and the benefits it will bring to their future. We then put him in ABA lessons in which he is
still currently in.
He’s now 5 and he went from a special needs class to an
inclusion class. He still has many struggles but has improved drastically. Now
I am back to doing my music but I’m still putting all my effort and time into
him and my daughter. I thought music was
my dream. I know realize being a father of a child with special needs is my
lifelong dream. Just the dedication alone is the greatest feeling I have ever
felt. I will make sure to be there for him every step of the way. I now have a
real reason and purpose in life and purpose to do music. My new song out right now is a Star Wars song
by the name of “Young Jedi. “ I will be
donating 205 of all proceeds earned towards Autism research. My real name is
Samuel Gomez but my stage name is Shocase24kts.
My new song can be view here:
Tuesday, October 20, 2015 |
Her mother prayed for good news as she sent 3-year old
Grandin to a speech therapist.
Diagnosed with autism, Temple was thought to be incapable of learning
how to speak. In the 1950s, that meant institutionalization all of her life.
That is, unless she could prove she was capable of learning in school.
Her parents tried everything, and speech therapy was her last hope
of a good life.
Somehow, against all odds, young Temple started to make progress. It
was slow, but Temple was able to speak well enough to be enrolled in
This was a huge win for Temple, but still her future still seemed limited. She struggled throughout her entire school life because she simply did
not think the way “normal” children did.
She could not think in terms of words, only pictures. She could not
understand basic human emotions or interactions. This inability to relate
to her peers, or be understood by her teachers, alienated Temple.
She became extremely anxious and lonely. And although she avoided
institutionalization, it appeared Temple would never be successful in
mainstream society. She was just too different. 
TEMPLE'S TURNING POINT
That started to change when Temple spent a summer on a farm with
her aunt. There, Temple interacted with her aunt’s cattle and realized
the deep connection she felt for them.
For some reason, she felt an empathy for them that she couldn’t
feel for other people.
Then Temple spotted a machine known as the “squeeze chute” which
holds cattle tightly while they are examined, marked, or given veterinary
treatment. Like all children, Temple wanted to be hugged to help her
feel safe and secure.
However, she could not stand having another person hug her. She felt
like she had no control in the situation, so it would cause her to panic.
But when she saw the squeeze chute, she felt like it could give her the
sensation she was looking for all of her life - without losing control. So
she used the squeeze chute on herself and instantly felt a sense of calm
come over her.
All of her anxious feelings melted away and she finally felt safe.
Immediately, she wanted to create a machine that would give her the
same sensation she felt in the squeeze chute. So when she got back
from Arizona, Temple got straight to work in her other great passion in
life – building things. 
THE INCREDIBLE POWER OF PASSION
She was so excited about this that she would spend hours researching
machine design without any boredom. Because she was so focused on
her goal of building the squeezing mechanism, she overcame her
weakness of understanding things in words!
Eventually, she built a makeshift squeeze chute that she would use to
calm her anxiety through the social awkwardness of her adolescents.
After completion, Temple’s curiosity only increased. She wanted to
know why the machine impacted her so positively. So she became
obsessed with how touch and pressure affect autistic children.
Still an outcast, she had ample time alone for research and studying.
Although reading through textbooks took her longer than normal
children, it provided a great platform to practice learning through books.
This helped her immensely as she progressed through high
school.Temple wasn't a stellar student by any means, but with each
passing year, her options grew.
After years of passionate research and remarkable improvements in her
learning ability, Temple went to University - eventually graduating with a
Master's in animal science.
USING HER STRENGTHS IN LIFE
When she entered the working world, Temple became more than just an
autism success story, she became the greatest innovator in her field.
She started working on feedlots, which were horrible in the 1970s.
Workers didn't take the animals’ thoughts or emotions into account at
all. They were only focused on forcing the cattle to move along the
assembly line - leading to group panic, injuries and even death.
Given her empathy for cattle, Temple felt their emotions at every step of
She felt their fear, she felt their pain, and she felt their feelings of
panic. They were living in a place that was completely foreign to all of
their natural instincts, so they didn't know how to react.
So Temple obsessed over each point and ensured that the cattle’s
psychological state was always in tact. She literally went through the
entire production process as if she were the cow, then made changes
based on what the cow sees and feels.
She deliberately kept frightening or confusing things out of their line of
She ensured they would be able to keep their footing at all times.
And made sure there would never be a bottle neck that would cause
The men in the feedlots laughed at her crazy ideas of "cattle
psychology", but Temple was used to ridicule at that point. Then when
her design was done, they were blown away when the cattle moved
flawlessly through the feedlot.
No injuries, no deaths, no panic, and no forcing the cattle to move.
It was perfect.
Thus, Temple went from having no brighter future than working on an
assembly line, to being one of the greatest assembly line innovators
since Henry Ford.
Today, she is a world renowned author, speaker, and one of the
greatest inspirations for autistic children everywhere who now know that
success is possible for them.
HOW TO DEVELOP THE WILL OF TEMPLE
Temple Grandin truly is a hero. She was born with a disorder that
stopped thousands of other children from having a good life, and
thousands more from even having the right to their own freedom.
Yet, she not only had a good life, she made the world a better place for
animals and autistic children everywhere.
So what can we learn from her?
1. BAD LUCK IS NOT ALWAYS A BAD THING
So often there is a temptation to blame your bad results on bad luck.
You're not talented....
You're not smart...
You just don't have the willpower...
Then you go about life angry, feeling like you have no control over
your circumstances. But in all likelihood, whatever your bad luck is, it
is not nearly as bad as Temple's bad luck of being born with severe
autism in the 1950s!
Yet, today she lives as a true inspiration in our society because of her
At the age of 5, she had already spent 20 hours/week in speech therapy
accomplishing a goal that many thought was impossible. She didn't
have to hear "nothing is impossible" from parents and teachers, she
knew from experience!
Before high school, she had already discovered her life's passion -
building things, and working with animals. She didn't have to hear
"follow your dreams", she was already following them!
Then she developed the willpower to research and study because she
was isolated from her friends and had ample time alone to follow her
Whatever your "bad luck" is, find a way to turn it around. Find a
way for it to help you develop into the person you truly want to be.
2. EMBRACE STRENGTHS, IMPROVE
Throughout her life, Temple embraced the things she was great at.
She embraced the fact that she thought in pictures, focusing her life's
work on design.
She embraced her empathy for animals, getting her degree in animal
She embraced her passion for autism, researching everything she could
However, she also realized that she needed to improve her
If she hadn't built a device to overcome her anxiety, she never would
have made it through the bullying in high school. If she hadn't overcome
her inability to learn in words, she never would have gone to college.
Embrace those things you can do better than everyone else, but
also do not ignore the things you need to work on. Sometimes it will
not matter how good you are in one area if you are not good enough in
3. THE GREATEST WILLPOWER COMES FROM
Think about how painful and boring it would be for you to read a
textbook about machine design for the next 6 hours. Now think about
how boring and painful it would be if you were autistic and couldn't
process words properly!
Yet, Temple did that regularly.
She was so passionate about animals, building things, and learning how
pressure affected autistic children, that she could summon the willpower
to endure that frustration for hours every single day.
Next, think of the boldness it would take a shy, autistic woman to come
into a male-dominated cattle feedlot and tell them that they have been
doing almost everything wrong!
But she summoned the willpower to do it because she had a truly
inspiring purpose. A purpose that she worked toward her entire life. And
one that she was never going to stop pursuing. 
Whatever your goal, dream, desire, you must find the passion
behind it and remind yourself of it. Don't focus on the boring, painful,
or scary work you must to do today, focus on why you are doing it. And
remind yourself that it is worth it.
You are not imprisoned by your circumstances. No matter what family
you were born into, no matter what genes you were given, and no
matter what strengths or weaknesses you have, you always have
control over decisions and actions.
Temple's story proves that you can be given bad luck and turn it into
great results. She proves that embracing your strengths is powerful - as
long as you have the willpower to work on your weaknesses. And that
your passion is the strongest willpower you have.
Luck happens - both good and bad. But you are not defined by your
luck. You are defined by your choices, and the willpower you need to
make those choices a reality.
Submitted by Colin Robertson. To read more and find out about his Kickstarter book, read here
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